I guess i don't clarify my point very well.

 unlike many people who have blogs just to get money, I use mine as a hobby, but being a home maker that brings in 0$ and wants just a little fame (be it for 10 or more readers a day) Yes i have ads. I wanted my own domain and i do have to pay for it somehow since i cannot justify the price of hosting, the cost for the domain and so on, to come from my home or grocery budget. So i am sorry to everyone that i do have ads but Google ads does benefit people like me who just plain cannot afford their own domain. It is not like i get any money in my pocket. I do get some money but at the rate i get it, it will be a year or two until i get paid and by then i can pay off the credit cards that has just my website expences.  Plus if i ever make any money it will just go back into promoting my site or buying into faster hosting so i can get more readers and they can have a nice resource. 

once again i state..

i do not blog for money, it is a cheap hobby compared to other hobbies i had, i use this mainly for the sharing of ideas and promo of the home maker/thinker and i am offended by those who think different. 

so when i take the (unpaid) time and effort to hand read every feedback and get someone who has the wrong idea and is making totally wrong assumptions then i get slightly offended. 

here is what i got in my mail

Author: guairdean@gmail.com

Body: "Interesting, you're complaining about someone removing your links because this isn't an ad site, but you have ads at the top for Reverbnation and ads at the side for whatever google is pushing. An ad site has ads, which this one does. A non-ad site doesn't have ads, which is something you can't say about this site. I stumbled across your site tonight and looked around. I'll keep stumbling. I will, however, be sure to check out  "(sorry i am not going to promote them anymore than i have)". If you don't like it, it must be good."
IP: 71.96.92.24
Posted date: Mon Dec 03 17:18:41 -0800 2007

I will clarify. i meant this is not a site i use for income. This person seems to have missed the point. I am not a person that tries to sell to make money. i just want my voice to be heard.

I am an ad site byt i am not an advertiser for my own monetary benefit.

and for another clarification i did not leave garden stew because of the content. I left because i thought it was rude that  they took the time to see my posts, remove my links, explain the rules in hand written e mail, all while earning actual incom, but they did not take the time to look at my site real quick to find i would have been no threat for spam, would have been a great contributor, and would have been a good promotional person for them if they had heavy traffic and content. 

But i guess i can google for another forum (which i had done for that site) until i find one i do like and will not be rude to bloggers.

As for what they did in general, they forgot the basics of being polite when trying to protect themselves from spammers. I am sorry i have cost them their advertising dollars in dealing with my outrageous spam (mind you it was a madatory greeting i had to make, and a question that would have started a good discussion thread with randomblogging.com as the last line) .. Just be glad i was not a real spammer and you did not have to deal with something that would have actually been annoying and what you were trying to protect yourself from.